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What if setting limits hurts people that you care about? How do you know if you've put up walls of self protection that actually break relationship, or if you've set a healthy boundary that makes relationships safe? Is it really ok to have boundaries in close relationships? What does that even look like? These are …
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Journaling should be mandatory. Like, you'll be tossed into a cell somewhere to think things over, young lady, until you write down the truth that you are deadlocked in eye contact with - write it down wether you like it or not, wether it's "reality" or not. What is reality anyway? I always think I …
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And the light dawns. I mean give it enough time and the sun does eventually peek over the horizon. But man, is it ever scary before that first ray of light hits. I sat in the courtyard, the sound of children playing floated on the wind from the orphanage across the street, the dust mingling …
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i’ve been feeling like it’s time to emerge from my quiet cocoon. It has been a beautiful, healing place, and I’m thankful for it, but there is a gentle nudge inviting me back into this forum. It will be a year since I lost my sister - february 24th - it’s coming up and I …
Fall is coming, my friends... and with it the wistful hope of dying things. I dreamed about my sister last night... that we were at a family get together but I spent all my time doing other, stupid things and then realized as we were all getting in line for a big family picture, that …
happy things my kitten Marble curling up in my lap, purring loudly till he falls asleep making plans to see my family in Tennessee being offered a cup of ice at the pool (they're fancy at the country club) the kids doing their chores without being asked watching my friends fight for relationship - even …
Let me be clear. My encouragement to you to "tell the truth and say it out loud" does not have anything to do with attacking one another with stored up frustrations. It is about being honest with ourselves first; to stop hiding in excuses and pain, stop fooling ourselves about what is really holding us …
Continue reading "My journey with EMDR trauma therapy and what I have learned so far"
Therapy is like an unwelcome friend that barges into your house at the most inconvenient times... and camps out on your couch. You love your friend, but really? Right now? Just when you wanted to settle in with book 5 of Harry Potter and get lost for a while. I've had lots of counseling... loads. …
Summer is a wasteland. A floating myriad of lost hours and extra daylight. We make a point of doing nothing on purpose around my house in the summer, just to balance out all the "have to's" of the school season. It is the way I do it, which doesn't say much for the way it …
(For part one, click here) (For part two, click here) Ally opened her eyes. The sun shone warm on her skin, the sand beneath her was her cradle. She lay very still, listening to the sound of the waves caressing the sand. The night had passed and the sky was once again a clear, brilliant …
Continue reading "Ally: The Story of an Ocean Girl (part 3, the star song)"
